After living in the country for a few months, I have discovered social structural issues caused by a preference for boys over girls, overpopulation, and a real estate bubble, which makes me feel very powerless.

The high degree of involution caused by overpopulation has led to a long-term reduction in labor costs. On one hand, this has resulted in families outsourcing their daily lives to a high degree; household chores can be handled by cleaners, meals rely on takeout, and the difficulty of managing a household has significantly decreased, which continuously undermines the actual responsibilities that women bear in traditional family roles. On the other hand, making money has become increasingly difficult, as men are forced to compete against a large number of homogeneous competitors, bearing greater economic pressure.

At the same time, the deeply rooted preference for sons over daughters has led many women to lack resources and recognition in their families of origin, and they encounter both subtle and overt structural injustices in the workplace. This long-term sense of insecurity is brought into romantic relationships, transforming into a high dependence on men's financial security, which evolves into a rigid requirement that one must have a house and a car before getting married.

However, in an environment of high housing prices, men of marriageable age often have to rely on their parents to accumulate assets, which further gives rise to fatalism and determinism. There is an almost worship-like recognition of innate conditions such as family wealth and intellectual background, while denying the value of postnatal effort and cognitive improvement, believing that personal struggle is unlikely to change one's fate.

Under this logic, some women place their future life security in the hands of a very small number of top men, only chasing the top 1% of successful individuals. When labor costs are too low, family capabilities are continuously outsourced, and personal comprehensive value is consistently compressed, reproductive capability is instead alienated into the core bargaining chip they can emphasize. Meanwhile, the top 1% of men enjoy all sexual resources, further exacerbating the extreme polarization and collapse of trust in the marriage and dating market.

On one hand, the experiences of women being short-listed are flaunted as scarce capital among sisters, amplifying female competition, pushing those with similar conditions toward a race that only aims for upward attachment, while neglecting long-term matching and mutual growth. On the other hand, after being repeatedly filtered and replaced by top men, some young women develop a systematic distrust of emotions, completely instrumentalizing relationships, only recognizing the certainty of monetary and material returns.

Marriage and love are no longer a long-term partnership of shared risks, but have evolved into an asymmetric game relationship. Men either squeeze into the top 1% to gain options, or choose to exit. Women either continue to bet upwards for a sense of security, or turn to complete utilitarian rationality after being frustrated.

Moreover, when combined with the information cocoons created by domestic social media, people are trapped in their respective ecological niches, repeatedly reinforcing existing perceptions. What they see are merely extreme examples amplified by algorithms, ultimately causing issues related to gender, class, and romantic relationships to continuously self-validate and oppose each other within closed loops, making it difficult to truly break out of structural dilemmas.

The prosperity brought about by the demographic dividend and the real estate economy in the first 20 years has now resulted in consequences that the post-90s and post-00s generations must bear after the bubble has burst. However, due to a lack of logical thinking skills, the vast majority of young people are living on the surface of gender opposition, which is truly sad.