mental projection

In psychology, there is a term called: psychological projection (when someone bullies or suppresses you, the best way is not to retaliate, but to cope with “psychological projection”!)

With you like this, you still want a promotion? Stop dreaming.

Are you deliberately targeting me? Otherwise, why would you say that.

With stocks like yours, can you still make money?

In life, you must have heard similar words.

Clearly, I didn't do anything wrong, yet I am inexplicably blamed and suppressed by others. I feel both angry and wronged, and I can't help but want to refute it. The result is often that the more I argue, the worse it gets, and the relationship becomes increasingly strained.

In fact, many times the attacks from others towards you are not because you are really bad, but because they are projecting their own issues onto you. This is known as “psychological projection” in psychology.

In simple terms, it means that a person takes their own disliked thoughts, emotions, or traits and attributes them to others, then blames or attacks them.

What is psychological projection?

Psychological projection is one of the defense mechanisms proposed by Freud, which refers to: a person transfers parts of themselves that they do not accept (such as negative emotions, bad thoughts, or disliked traits) onto others, believing that it is others who have these issues, rather than themselves.

For example——

A person who loves to be lazy may blame others for being “too lazy”;

A highly jealous person will feel that “everyone is jealous of them”;

A selfish person will always doubt that “others want to take advantage of them.”

For example:

Mom is very anxious herself, afraid that the child won't do well on the exam, but she tells the child.

“Why aren't you worried at all? You just play all day.”

—— In fact, it is the mother who projects her own anxiety onto the child, believing that the child's “nonchalance” is wrong.

In the workplace, some colleagues might see you working hard and say:

“You are working so hard, isn't it just to show off?”

—— Perhaps he himself also wants to strive, but feels that “trying too hard will attract criticism,” so he projects this contradictory thought onto you, using blame to disguise his own inner turmoil.

The psychologist Jung once said:

“All your dissatisfaction with the outside world is actually dissatisfaction with yourself.”

Psychological projection is like a mirror; what it reflects is not the problems of others, but the shadows within the projector's own heart.

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