Excessive expectations, desire for control, and self-sentimentality turn gentle love into a sharp double-edged sword, thus hurting others and oneself, ultimately destroying the relationship.
Overly loving is to regard oneself too highly, trying to control the uncontrollable object, hoping to turn the tide, only to be struck down by the unpredictable counterforce.
Attempting intimacy, being forced to distance, then learning to be as gentle as water. Not obsessed with the outcome, thus giving up disputes; not obsessed with possession, thus relinquishing control; not obsessed with feedback, thus letting go of calculations.
Water flows through me, wind blows past me, all things in the world come and go as they please. I am still myself, all things are all things, and everyone is everyone.
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Excessive expectations, desire for control, and self-sentimentality turn gentle love into a sharp double-edged sword, thus hurting others and oneself, ultimately destroying the relationship.
Overly loving is to regard oneself too highly, trying to control the uncontrollable object, hoping to turn the tide, only to be struck down by the unpredictable counterforce.
Attempting intimacy, being forced to distance, then learning to be as gentle as water. Not obsessed with the outcome, thus giving up disputes; not obsessed with possession, thus relinquishing control; not obsessed with feedback, thus letting go of calculations.
Water flows through me, wind blows past me, all things in the world come and go as they please. I am still myself, all things are all things, and everyone is everyone.