The core embodiment of an upward family

The core embodiment of an upward family

1、

A long-term stable family

is clearly divided in roles.

Among two people,

one strives to raise the family’s upper limit,

the other maintains emotional stability to ensure the lower limit,

household chores and childcare tasks can be arranged among everyone,

mutual understanding and recognition of each other’s efforts,

everyone shares the goal of managing the small home well,

only then can they go further.

2、

Grasp the important milestones in life.

In fact,

there are not many times in life to change one’s destiny,

birth,

education,

employment,

marriage,

each is very important,

but many people do not pay attention,

always thinking life has unlimited possibilities,

missed the opportunities that still exist later,

but even if you have opportunities,

you need to pay a higher price than before.

Therefore, in raising children,

also uphold a serious and responsible attitude,

when children choose schools and majors,

make good use of connections to find relationships.

When children choose career paths,

consult professionals’ opinions in a timely manner.

3、

Family atmosphere and emotions should be stable.

Most human consumption,

comes from emotional instability,

a trivial matter can lead to endless arguments,

spending emotions and time on this,

how can there be time and energy to learn and improve?

4、

Value education for the next generation.

Valuing education is not just about letting children get into good schools with a diploma as a safety net,

Long Yingtai once wrote a sentence for her children,

I think it’s very right,

“Child,

I want you to work hard at studying,

hoping that,

when applying for jobs in the future,

you can choose companies based on your interests,

rather than your conditions,

smile confidently and face the interview,

and give yourself an equal opportunity to compete with others.”

It’s also to cultivate good study and living habits,

so that when encountering problems and confusion in the future,

they know how to find answers,

how to release their pressure,

rather than easily giving up on themselves,

choosing to lie flat.

5、

Pay attention to physical health.

Be prepared in advance,

organize regular health check-ups for family members every year,

to prevent major illnesses from finding the family.

Encourage family members to exercise regularly,

maintain good physical condition.

People must first stay alive,

then they have the chance to see beauty.

6、

The family should be dominated by logic and interests,

not by emotions.

Don’t fuss over who manages the money at home,

who to listen to,

but listen to whoever’s advice makes sense,

even children’s opinions can be considered,

whoever has the ability to manage money should do so,

all choices aim to maximize the benefits of this small family.

Remember,

rights and responsibilities go hand in hand.

Then, prioritize your small family first,

and then consider both families.

Reduce the involvement of the older generation in children’s lives.

Marital relationship is the most important among all relationships,

far more than parent-child or original family relationships.

7、

Invest in yourself rather than your children.

There must be at least one person in the family capable of lifelong learning,

such as acquiring the latest knowledge,

concepts, and skills.

Relying hope on a child,

takes at least 20 years to see results,

which is a sign of shirking responsibility.

Relying hope on yourself,

3-5 years,

even 3-5 months can show obvious changes,

if you want your children to succeed,

the most direct guidance is for us as parents to lead by example.

8、

Economic foundation determines superstructure.

Poor couples, many worries,

80% of life’s problems can be solved with money,

the rest,

requires more money,

so it’s essential to have the ability to earn money,

at least one spouse should be able to earn and manage money,

only then can risks be resisted.

9、

Discuss major matters,

be considerate in minor matters.

Reduce the desire to control,

less worry for yourself,

and allow family members’ thoughts to function normally,

small inconveniences in life are nothing,

no need for mutual blame.

10、

1+1>2

Couples should support each other,

not drain each other.

If both together are less happy than being single,

then better to stay single.

Women should possess three abilities,

the ability to educate children,

the ability to inherit wealth,

the ability to manage family emotions.

Educating children means inheritance,

asset management means wealth,

emotional management means family atmosphere,

these abilities are indispensable.

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