Top 20 Mindsets:

1. Never feel inferior. Others’ wealth has nothing to do with you; many people are just pretending to be something they’re not. To see if someone has substance, look at their circle, not their flashy cars. There’s no need to see yourself as inferior; you are always yourself.
2. Never care about others’ opinions of you, remember it’s anyone. Being looked down upon or criticized by strangers only adds fuel to mental exhaustion and makes you unhappy. If you take such people seriously and care too much about them, you lose. Wang Yangming said, how to control emotions? Don’t take emotions seriously. Aside from life and death, everything else is trivial; even a scratch isn’t worth fussing over.
3. Don’t try to prove yourself; the more you try, the more passive you become. Effort to prove gives others a higher status than you, and proof itself is just appeasement. To disprove something is simple—just give a counterexample. To prove something is extremely difficult; no matter how many methods you try, you can’t truly prove it.
4. Girl’s secret to winning effortlessly: stay mentally unburdened. Men doing or saying things to you shouldn’t easily upset you. Keep engaged in life and career, and draw strength from small achievements and details. Getting upset over a few words is being affected. Being mentally burdened is a hard life; constantly living under others’ gaze makes things difficult for yourself.
5. Time is limited. Others’ negativity usually only lasts a few seconds, but it can affect your mood for a long time. Ask yourself if it’s worth it. Arguments on August 2014 or June 26, 2020, you’ve probably forgotten them all. To be happy, think long-term. Never let small things affect you—that’s mental internal conflict.
As people age, they only regret what they didn’t do when young, not what they did. Live in the moment to make life more meaningful. Optimism is seeing through the essence of life, disliking it but still loving life.
6. Truly powerful people are not domineering or aggressive; they avoid three weak-minded thoughts: kindness doesn’t always bring good rewards, wisdom is needed; attitude towards money determines height; losing a loved one isn’t scary, but losing oneself because of that is.
7. Murphy’s Law: The more you fear something, the more likely it is to happen. Corollary: The more you fear something, the better prepared you are, so you shouldn’t fear whatever happens.
8. Allow everything to happen. It’s impossible to block it; whether you fear or not, it will happen. Choose to let it pass without fighting. After accepting everything, you become soft and relaxed. Buddhist teachings say the world changes with the mind; if you can put even unpleasant things in front of death and accept them, life won’t be so tangled.
9. Always believe you are the best, even in adversity.
10. Reduce mental internal conflict. The core of Morita therapy is “go with the flow and do what’s right,” regardless of how intense your inner emotional conflicts are. Trying to directly solve mental struggles only feeds the emotions. Practice “wu wei” (non-action) towards emotions, and focus your attention and energy on what you should do.
11. Dull your sensitivity + shield yourself = invincible life. Don’t peek into others’ lives, don’t speculate about their thoughts, and don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. There’s no need to overthink people or events that cause internal conflict. Return your time and energy to yourself, stay true to your heart amid noise, fame, and profit, and walk confidently in the secular world. Translation: It’s none of my business + It’s none of your business = Peaceful days.
12. Focus on the present. Only eat the food in front of you, drink the water in front of you, do what’s in front of you, and see the people in front of you. Forget about time; the past, present, and future are just one. Happiness is not long-lasting without trouble; without great joy or sorrow, life is pure bliss.
13. Don’t envy others’ success too much. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses; you may not be as good as others in many areas, but you’re not useless either. Do small, trivial things well, and keep a joyful mood—that’s also a form of success in real life.
14. When encountering someone more capable than you, stay humble but confident. There’s no need to become overly submissive around powerful or influential people; we’re all human, what’s there to fear? The more you belittle yourself, the more others look down on you. Be confident and fearless, and others will respect you.
15. When you long for someone else’s life, they might be envying your happiness. In life, pursue what you don’t have now, but also learn to enjoy what you already possess.
16. Learn to let go. As humans, we face many troubles; when things happen, learn to forgive and accept. Seeing things clearly allows you to live well; health depends on nurturing the mind, stabilizing emotions to prevent most illnesses.
17. To find happiness, you must first endure pain. No joy is gained without suffering; all happiness requires sacrifice. Behind every successful person is a monk-like period of hardship; behind every happy person are days of pain. There’s no effortless happiness; all joy comes at a cost.
18. Children judge right and wrong; adults only consider benefits and drawbacks. Adults don’t care about right or wrong; they only care about advantages and disadvantages. When benefits are present, they rush in; when disadvantages appear, they avoid. The real world only looks at pros and cons.
19. Never complain. Turn “Why did this happen to me?” into “What is this teaching me?” View the world from a different perspective; everything is the best arrangement.
20. Never try to change anyone. You can’t change anyone in a lifetime; humans are created by heaven and earth, society, time, and all things. Ordinary people can hardly do anything to reshape others.